Disadvantages of arranged marriage
The main disadvantage of Arranged marriages in Hinduism (especially in India) is the dowry system. It has been said that the dowry system has been completely eradicated from the social views around the country, but it doesn’t seem like it. The dowry system basically is a situation where the girls family pays enormous amounts on money or gives other expensive things such as gold, cars etc. to the groom’s family, just because they are on the superior side of the relationship.
1. Arranged marriages may sometimes raise a hard situation of choosing the right partner. This occurs when there is a lot of pressure on the unwed individual from the family members. This sometimes leads the individual to rethink about arranged marriages.
2. The couple might experience lack of privacy in their relationship due to the family closeness and interference by other relatives. It calls for an awkward situation if the couple is in an argument, and hence the entire family/ families might get involved even if they don’t tend to.
3. Arranged marriages is a traditional way of marriage which a woman marries a man who is chosen by her parents. So she does not know about her partner until she gets marry. That causes her and her partner to divorce because of difference in common or various reasons. An example of arranged marriages is Marie-Antoinette who married to Louis XVI by arranged marriages.
4. Even though we discussed in the advantages that the in-laws support the couples during their wedded life, sometimes feelings of ego and jealousy drive the other memebers of the family to sour up the relationship between the couple. This take a huge toll on the couple as they get caught up in the family and in-law dispute. Therefore in some cases it ends up breaking the relationship between two individuals. (Lack of faith).
5. Another disadvantage is when the boy’s family turns down a girl just because she might be average in appearance, even though she is decent, respects her elders and knows how to stand along with her future partner in sorts of situations that he or his family might face.
6. It’s possible to end up with an entirely unsuitable partner and if that happens it may very well be more difficult to get out of an arranged marriage due to cultural or religious pressure.
7. Some cultures use arranged marriages as a means to suppress women, marrying them off at a young age before they are old enough to develop independently. In fact, some cultures, such as the polygamist sects in the Western United States, actually have turned arranged marriages into an institutionalized form of child abuse.
8. An arranged marriage might also result in family feuds if it was a forced one.Either one of the partners might have chosen someone else as their future partner. Just because the families don’t agree to the decisions of the individual, they might end up getting forcefully married to the person who is not their choice. This might lead to fights, Arguments and even divorce if the individual still prefers to be with the person of their choice.
Reference :
http://arrangedmarriageshinduism.weebly.com/disadvantages-of-arranged-marriages.html
http://lang-8.com/621936/journals/57009715860929921379648473537442717284
http://www.southasian.com/arranged-marriage-advantages-disadvantages/
